Impostor Syndrome

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Do you ever find it hard to truly celebrate yourself. Do you downplay your accomplishments and avoid praise by harping on what could be better? Do you ever chalk up your success to luck instead of loving on yourself for the hard work you put in? Do you ever fear that other people may wake up and "realize you're a fraud" or your work is not as great as they thought?

Yep, me too. What we may suffer from is a good ole case of Impostor Syndrome. Wikipedia gives a simplified definition: "Impostor syndrome (also known as impostor phenomenonfraud syndrome or the impostor experience) is a concept describing individuals who are marked by an inability to internalize their accomplishments and a persistent fear of being exposed as a "fraud"".

I have always found it hard to truly celebrate myself. At every milestone, I find myself critiquing every move that got me to that point. Then, I question what gives me the right to be "here". When I graduated from high school, with honors, I felt like I only got it because I was well liked by the administration of my school. I totally negated my hard work and involvement in the campus. When it was time for me to graduate from undergrad, I refused to take pictures or have some fancy dinner parties like the rest of my friends because I felt like I didn’t deserve it. I hid behind my demanding schedule and fatigue from working so hard. In reality, I could have done a much better job at loving on myself and honoring the accomplishment despite all it took to get there. It wasn't until chose to really invest my time and energy into A Natural Beaut that I realized how big of an issue this is. To this day, I question my ability to create a successful brand that will be used as a resource for everyone..."Who's going to listen to me?" "What makes me think I have what it takes?" "What if my imperfections outshine my hard work and dedication to healing?" 

Those thoughts can be so defeating and they've played a part in why I often talk myself out of making monumental moves. None of us are perfect, and we cheat ourselves out of a fulfilling life by allowing that annoying voice in our head (the ego) to take away every single piece of joy that is rightfully ours. 

I’d like for us to have a conversation about this. Comment below and share your experiences with impostor syndrome, or how you choose to celebrate your accomplishments with no guilt or fear.  

 

Also, check out these amazing tools to learn more about Imposter Syndrome and how to combat the self defeating thoughts:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/trust/201712/imposter-syndrome-and-fear-failure

http://www.apa.org/gradpsych/2013/11/fraud.aspx

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-friend-zone/id1031936205?mt=2&i=1000373661114 

 https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-friend-zone/id1031936205?mt=2&i=1000404164070